Have my cake . . .

I love girls, girls, girls, girls . . . We all know the tune.  Most men admit to it and some know how to deal with it.  Even after marriage, it is still something that seems to haunt us . . . ALL OF US!  Since the beginning of documented history, men have had multiple female "friends", some with benefits and few without.  Don't get me wrong this is by no means an argument for the previous or the latter, it is merely a rant on the topic.  What is cheating?  What is faithfulness?  Whose idea was it for man (or woman) to just be with one mate for the rest of their life?  As long as I can remember, I have had a list of things attributes my "perfect" woman would have and when I found those things . . . it was ON!!  Over time, I have discovered it is all an illusion.   A facade if you will. Can one person truly give you all that you need in life to be happy?  If you and your mate were stranded on a deserted island for 18 months, with no outside interactions or communication, would it make you stronger or pull you apart?   Does having friends, a job, kids or other outlets and things that give you "space" from your mate allow you to have a longer relationship?  In the Bible, a lot of the men that were used by God had a wife and several mistresses . . . does this make them sinners? Were they wrong for how they lived?  God still saw fit to use them for the purpose he placed them on this earth, so what made their actions "unfit" or "illegal" for modern society?  Most men get married because that woman is the best thing that ever happened to them (or that's how they feel at that time) and she makes him feel great.  I equate that to a fresh baked cake that you get to smell, touch and sometimes put a slice on your plate.  Men tend to "cheat" because they don't feel loved, are underappreciated, can't experiment sexually or all of the above.  I equate that to being able to eat that cake.  The thing about it, once you "eat" the thing you have been craving, lusting, and feel like you were being deprived of for so long . . . it's gone and it's hard to get that warm feeling back again.